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One more from Health & Nutrition: "Trying to control others is futile. The only person you can change is yourself." Check out my "Summer of Soul," reporting on my recent Inner Adventures. This one is about at the top of the list. My lifestyle is tough on those around me. My pace has inevitably led to irritability. (Understatement.) I chose to work on a couple of relationships in particular—one personal, one professional. But in fact I did NOT "work on the relationship." I ... WORKED ON ME. "Unilateral disarmament" was the slogan I used on myself. I paid special attention to the quick retorts I'd make ... that would trigger a downward conversational spiral. (And worse.) I learned to ... BREATH (1 ... 2 ... 3) ... before I made a remark-retort-rebuttal. The simple "1 ... 2 ... 3" was usually enough to defuse me. Try it. (Hint: You gotta work like hell at it if you're wired anything like I am—you've first got to learn to "attend the moment" and be conscious of what we're usually not conscious of.) Bottom Line, per this powerful quote/idea: I changed myself ... and both sides of the long-term relationships changed ... DRAMATICALLY ... in the course of just 60 days. If you're looking for miracles, you need look no further. (No bull.)
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